Monthly Archives: September 2011

Note…

I know that my post- “You are More”- does not seem to directly relate to women.  This was an issue that I felt compelled to talk about based on my past week.  I needed to write this and every women out there needs to read it.  I however did not have the heart to put the word “women” in my post, because the issue of forgiveness and labeling is for everyone.  Female, male, young, or old, you hold on to your sin.  It is hard to believe that something as good as forgiveness is meant for us.  It is.  It is as simple as that.  Let it go, you are more.

God’s Love & Grace be with you.


You Are More

Everyone makes mistakes.  It is the way of the world.  There is not one perfect person walking on this earth.  Do you look at yourself in the mirror and say, “Who am I? Who have I become?”  Do you carry the weight of your mistakes on your shoulders?  This is what society has done to us.  As we go through our lives the consequences of our decisions stalk us.  The society that surrounds us has drilled it into our minds and bodies that our mistakes define us.  We have become walking labels.  But it is worse than society defining us.  Instead of society, we define ourselves.  We write across our own foreheads our failures.  But here is the thing…

You are more than the choices that you’ve made,

You are more than the sum of your past mistakes,

You are more than the problems you create,

You’ve been remade.

‘Cause this is not about what you’ve done,

But what’s been done for you.

This is not about where you’ve been,

But where your brokenness brings you to

This is not about what you feel,

But what He felt to forgive you,

And what He felt to make you loved.

You are more- Tenth Avenue North

The thing is, you are more.  Your past mistakes are not tallied upon your head.  You are forgiven.  First John 2:12 says, “I write to you, dear children, because your sins have been forgiven on account of his name.” Forgiveness is simple; your sins are washed away.  But letting go of your sin is harder.  Because society teaches us to hold on we feel obligated, we feel shame for what we have done.  From living experience I can tell you that it is harder to live with the weight of your sin on your shoulders than to give it away.  Jesus died to save us from this burden.  Let him take it away.  Colossians 2:13-14 says, “When you were dead in you sins and in the uncircumcision of your sinful nature, God made you alive with Christ.  He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the written code, with its regulations, that was against us and that stood opposed to us; he took it away, nailing it to the cross.”  God has made you more than your mistakes.  Live that way.  Do not be afraid to shed the layers of your guilt.  If someone tells you not to, look them in the eye and say, “I am more.”  Because you are more, you are loved, you are valued, and you are cherished.  You are God’s beloved creation.  He died for you.  You are more.


Innocence- Gone with the Wind

In 1811 every girl’s goal was to be “innocent.”  200 years later, the goal every woman strives for is to be “sexy.”  In two centuries the sought after image in women has made a 180 degree turn.  The majority of women have an internal desire, a cultural role, to get married.  As girls we are raised to become wives.  I remember playing house as a child and dreaming about my wedding and my future husband.  200 years ago girls grew up knowing they were meant to be a wife, it was their “calling in life.”  The basic structure of marriage has not changed in all these years, but everything other than the foundation seems to be different.

In today’s society, when a girl looses her virginity it is treated almost as a celebration, a ceremony from childhood to adulthood.  Loosing ones virginity has become a right of passage, something easily accepted.  In 1811 if a girl lost her virginity, she was deflowered, ruined.  She was seemingly cast from society.  No one would marry her; in that one act she would have thrown away the life she had worked for.   200 years ago no one would marry you if you were ruined, today seemingly no one will marry you if you are a virgin.  The desire for innocence has gone with the wind.  One of my least favorite phrases is “You’re the kind of girl I would want to marry, not the kind I would date.”  Excuse me here, but is it not normal in this day and age for one to date before they get married?  Do they plan on proposing before they date me?  Well good luck to them because I would surely say no, but I will not change for them either.

This phenomenon is true; we are pressured by men and women alike to be sexy.  Every woman has her own reasons for being or not being sexually active.  For those of us who are not sexually active we seem to be in the minority.  When push comes to shove we come back to two alternatives in our heads.  One, we see the pool of available men shrinking before our eyes and ease up on our values, or two, we trust that God has a plan for us.  My vote is for the latter.  Jeremiah chapter 29 verse 11 says, “‘for I know the plans I have for you’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’.”  If we have faith, God will provide.  There is no need for us to cave to the pressure society presses upon us.  God has a plan for us, and it is better than anything we could ever imagine.  Stay strong.  Be who you are and believe what you believe.  Don’t be daunted by what society says.  Live by what God says.  “And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.”  1 cor. 13:13.


Something Beautiful

Sociologically speaking every culture has a different definition for the word beauty.  When flipping through my sociology textbook I came across a page with the title “different forms of beauty.”  On this page were pictures of women from 8 vastly unique countries, each face unrecognizable to the one beside it.  Every culture has designated some form of unreachable perfection to which every woman strives.  We all feel the pressure that we place on ourselves to be appealing to those around us.  Society has taught us to place beauty on our list of self-value.  Seven Billion dollars is spent annually in the United States on cosmetic products and procedures to help us reach this standard in which we have set.  A glance in the mirror shows us a few things we wish could be different.  A photograph seems to circle all of our imperfections and place them right under our nose.  There is hardly anything worse than standing in front of the mirror wondering if you should loose a few pounds, even if you are already considered underweight.  Trust me I’ve been there.  I always try to deny it.  I pretend that I don’t really have to look a certain way.  I say that I am who I am and I know who I am.  For the most part that is true, but why do I wake up some mornings and frown when I see my face in the fogged up mirror.  Why do I not want to eat that delicious soft serve in the cafeteria?  Why can’t I always believe that I am loved for who I am?  Why do I try to change myself for what society considers better?  Why?  The simple question is why do we do this to ourselves?  God loves us for who we are, we are more valuable to Him than we can imagine no matter what we look like.

Proverbs 31:30 says something that I tend to forget as I get caught up in the whirlwind known as being beautiful.  “Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”  When someone calls us beautiful we get butterflies in our stomachs, we feel praised, and we feel wonderful; but sometime down the paths of our lives that same person will not be so kind.  It is a cycle we get caught up in.  We feel a need to be praised, to be charmed by those around us.  But this charm that we seek is not always true, and it never lasts forever.    The charm does not last, nor does the beauty.  No matter how hard we try, we will never become the perfect model on the cover of a magazine.  The girl on the cover is not even the same girl as the one in front of the camera.  Beauty is fleeting; when we strive for it we waste our energies on something not important in the eye of God.  We should be the woman who “opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” (Proverbs 31:20)  We should strive to be the woman whom “speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” (Proverbs 31:26)  We should be the woman who fears the Lord.  For Proverbs 31:31 says “Give her the reward she has earned and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”  Though I often forget it, we are something beautiful.  God’s love is something beautiful.  Human charm and human beauty fade away.  But God’s charm and God’s beauty are everlasting.  That in its self is something beautiful.