The Need To Be… Loved?

Is there a difference?

There really is no difference between these two pictures.  They both tell us how women should look.  No matter the century, there is a standard women are held to, a standard which informs them of how good they are.  In the 14th century women wanted to be plump, the roundness showed off their wealth.  In the 1900’s women wanted a round curvaceous figure to attract men.  Today women want to be skinny- stick thin to be more exact.

The media surrounds us with pictures and movies full of “perfect” women.  These pictures serve as voices- voices that tell us that our self-worth comes from our bodies.   Which, it doesn’t.  There are three words that fit together, self-worth, wanted, and love.  Every human being has a desire to be loved, it is part of who we are, and there is no way around it.  The problem is that women have begun to confuse being wanted with love.  The circle of these three words completes itself when you realized that “want” stems from self-worth.  Women are seemingly brain washed into believing that they need to be sickly skinny, and what the media defines as beautiful, to be loved.  Love and Lust are not synonyms.  “Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Nowhere in the bible, or in common sense for that matter, does it say that we need our bodies to be loved.  God loves us for who we are, not for what society tells us we should be.  Real love is true and has no judgment.  “The Lord appeared to us in the past saying: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving kindness.  I will build you up again.” (Jeremiah 31:3) Love, lust, and self-worth do not fit together like a puzzle; do not trick yourself into believing this.  Instead believe in these three… “And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.  But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:13)

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